To Add, Or Not To Add--That Is The Question

It began with me asking on Facebook:

So, where was Mary Magdalene standing during Jesus' crucifixion?

because I had been reading this (Scripture quotes from International Standard Version):

Matthew 27:55 Now many women were also there, watching from a distance. They had accompanied Jesus from Galilee and had ministered to him. 56 Among them were Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James and Joseph, and the mother of Zebedee’s sons.

Mark 15:40 Now there were women watching from a distance. Among them were Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of young James and Joseph, and Salome. 41 They used to accompany him and care for him while he was in Galilee. Many other women who had come up to Jerusalem with him were there, too.

Luke 23:48 When all the crowds who had come together for this spectacle saw what had taken place, they beat their chests and left. 49 But all his acquaintances, including the women who had followed him from Galilee, were standing at a distance watching these things.

John 19:25 Meanwhile, standing near Jesus’ cross were his mother, his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. 26 When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple whom he kept loving standing there, he told his mother, “Dear lady, here is your son.” 27 Then he told the disciple, “Here is your mother.” And from that hour the disciple took her into his own home.

Because of the many differences between the Synoptic Gospels (Matthew, Mark and Luke) and the Gospel of John, some have supposed or concluded that John deliberately "changed" things (e.g., the day and time of the crucifixion) for theological reasons. If so, then what might have been his theological (or other) purpose in putting the women and Mary Magdalene at the cross, as opposed to the Synoptics having them view Jesus' crucifixion from a distance?

In response someone said: "People are actually movable objects. They can stand in different locations as time progresses."

Well, yes, people can move, and that may be what happened.

But is that how we are to read and understand the Gospels?

Are we to conflate the Gospel accounts so as to know "the rest of the story" in each instance where a Gospel might be "missing" something that one of the other Gospels "provides"? Thus here, for instance, are we to say that John's Gospel "adds the detail for us" that at some point Mary Magdalene and maybe a couple of the other women moved to stand by the cross while Jesus was dying on it?

Or should each Gospel be read and taken on its own?

How would Matthew and Mark and Luke and John have wanted us to read and understand their Gospels?

As a possibly poor analogy: Should one use the words and actions of two versions or remakes of a movie to "fill in the details of" (or possibly even "correct") a later or earlier version? In some instances, especially if the films are all based on the same novel or historical event and the director deliberately chose to omit or vary some things, it might be right to do so. But what if the director wanted us to view and understand his version of the story for what it is in its own right without our "adding to" it?

Back to the Gospels.

I’m sure I’m not the first one to see the following:

MATTHEW, MARK AND LUKE:

• Family, Followers, and Friends: These Gospels show Jesus abandoned by all of His family, followers, and friends, and surrounded only by strangers and mockers and enemies - Luke says that all His acquaintances, including the women, stood and watched the crucifixion from a distance.
• Creation: Creation, too, seems to abandon Him, or perhaps mourn His dying, as darkness covers the whole land for three hours. (Matthew also mentions an earthquake at His death, but that may mean something else.)
• God: At the end of that period of darkness, both Matthew and Mark seemingly have God abandon Him, too,* and Jesus doesn't call God "Father." Luke, though, while mentioning the darkness, has Jesus talking and praying to His "Father" (Luke 23:34,46) and nowhere has Him appearing to be abandoned by God or has Him saying, "My God, my God, why have You forsaken me?"

JOHN:

• Family, Followers, and Friends: John not only has Jesus not totally abandoned by His family, followers, and friends, but has some of those who were closest to Him standing by Him at the cross, and His nearly last words are with them, not with those crucified with Him (or perhaps not even with God - i.e., to whom does He say: "It is finished"?).
• Creation: There is no mention of any darkness.
• God: There is no suggestion that God may have forsaken Him.*

So... how did the Gospel writers and how does God want us to read and understand the Gospels, and how did or do they want us to relate or not relate them to each other?

Another person said that they have problems watching biblical movies because the directors take too much artistic license by "filling things in" for us. They considered their doing so to be presumptuous, as it can change what God wants us to know or what He doesn't want us to know, leading to erroneous concepts of God.

To which I responded: Are we or preachers then doing the right thing when we use the Synoptics to "fill in" for John, or vice-versa?

* I am aware of the likelihood that Jesus' quoting from Psalm 22 ("My God, my God, why have you abandoned me?") may not in fact refer to his being abandoned by God. Quoting the beginning of a Scripture was often a reference to the entire passage, and Psalm 22 ends on a note of triumph, not abandonment:

Psalm 22
To the Director: To the tune of “Doe of the Dawn”.
A Davidic Psalm.
God Delivers His Suffering Servant

    1 My God! My God!
      Why have you abandoned me?
    Why are you so far from delivering me—
      from my groaning words?
    2 My God, I cry out to you throughout the day,
      but you do not answer;
    and throughout the night,
      but I have no rest.
    3 You are holy,
      enthroned on the praises of Israel.
    4 Our ancestors trusted in you;
      they trusted and you delivered them.
    5 They cried out to you and escaped;
      they trusted in you and were not put to shame.
    6 But as for me,
      I am only a worm and not a man,
      scorned by mankind and despised by people.
    7 Everyone who sees me mocks me;
      they gape at me with open mouths
      and shake their heads at me.
    8 They say, “Commit yourself to the LORD;
      perhaps the LORD will deliver him,
    perhaps he will cause him to escape,
      since he delights in him.”
    9 Yet, you are the one who took me from the womb,
      and kept me safe on my mother’s breasts.
    10 I was dependent on you from birth;
      from my mother’s womb you have been my God.
    11 Do not be so distant from me,
      for trouble is at hand;
      indeed, there is no deliverer.
    12 Many bulls have surrounded me;
      the vicious bulls of Bashan have encircled me.
    13 Their mouths are opened wide toward me,
      like roaring and attacking lions.
    14 I am poured out like water;
      all my bones are out of joint.
      My heart is like wax, melting within me.
    15 My strength is dried up like broken pottery;
      my tongue sticks to the roof of my mouth,
      and you have brought me down to the dust of death.
    16 For dogs have surrounded me;
      a gang of those who practice of evil has encircled me.
      They gouged my hands and my feet.
    17 I can count all my bones.
      They look at me;
      they stare at me.
    18 They divide my clothing among themselves;
      they cast lots for my clothing!
    19 But as for you, LORD, do not be far away from me;
      My Strength, come quickly to help me.
    20 Deliver me from the sword;
      my precious life from the power of the dog.
    21 Deliver me from the mouth of the lion,
      from the horns of the wild oxen.
    You have answered me.
    22 I will declare your name to my brothers;
      in the midst of the congregation I will praise you, saying,
    23 “All who fear the LORD, praise him!
      All the seed of Jacob, glorify him!
      All the seed of Israel, fear him!
    24 For he does not despise nor detest the afflicted person;
      he does not hide his face from him,
      but he hears him when he cries out to him.”
    25 My praise in the great congregation is because of you;
      I will pay my vows before those who fear you.
    26 The afflicted will eat and be satisfied;
      those who seek the LORD will praise him,
      “May you live forever!”
    27 All the ends of the earth will remember and turn to the LORD;
      all the families of the nations will bow in submission to the LORD.
    28 Indeed, the kingdom belongs to the LORD;
      he rules over the nations.
    29 All the prosperous people will eat and bow down in submission.
      All those who are about to go down to the grave
      will bow down in submission,
      along with the one who can no longer keep himself alive.
    30 Our descendants will serve him,
      and that generation will be told about the Lord.
    31 They will come and declare his righteousness
      to a people yet to be born;
      indeed, he has accomplished it!

International Standard Version. (2011). (Ps 22). Yorba Linda, CA: ISV Foundation.

E.g., see The Father Did Not “Turn His Back”